Even in my younger days, I was annoyed by rappers rapping about their haters. There was a time when I wouldn’t say “hater” in a song. At the moment, I’m not positive, but I’m certain I said never said “hater” on “Live From Fatherhood.” However, “Overgrown Kids” is my song about some many call haters. “Overgrown Kids” features my youngest daughter, who recorded her parts on her second birthday.

My Story, My Struggles

The opening lines of the song set the tone for what’s to come. “I’m not in charge of how you feel. If I was, I would make you feel like being in charge of how you feel. Uh, duh!” It’s a little tongue-in-cheek, but it carries a deeper message. I open up about the pain and frustration of trying to be a father figure to individuals who may not fully comprehend the sacrifices made. These verses are not just words; they are my life laid bare, facing the expectations thrust upon me by people who subconsciously seek the guidance they never received from their biological fathers. 

I don’t hold back in expressing disgust, making it crystal clear that I’ve reached a point where unwarranted support shouldn’t be expected anymore. I’m aware of my hypocrisy, but the pain of unmet expectations and a lack of gratitude is something that cuts deep, and I wanted to convey that through my lyrics.

The Weight of Unreasonable Expectations

I rap, “I left you in the hood when you were grown, for more opportunities and my sanity. Your dad left when he got news you were in the womb and you’re more mad at me?” It highlights the absurdity of some people’s demands, drawing a stark comparison between what they expect from me and what they expect from their own biological fathers. It’s a revelation that emphasizes the unfair and unrealistic expectations placed on those who willingly and unknowingly step into the role of a father figure.

Understanding the Complexity

“Overgrown Kids,” much like all my songs, serves as a window into my personal experiences and emotions. I acknowledge the pain and longing for a father figure, emphasizing the impossibility of fully filling the void left by absent biological fathers. This goes beyond casual empathy; it reflects the complexity of surrogate situations and the emotional entanglement that inspired this song.

The lines, “Expecting more of me than your own biological. I ain’t even fuck yo’ mama. I might need to fuck  yo’ mama. Auntie, cousin or someone,” bring to light the absence of advantages in the given situation.

Having my own kids now adds another layer to the narrative. The energy and care once given to others will now be directed towards my biological children. This shift brings about a heightened vigilance, recognizing the potential for jealousy among those I cared for as if they were my own. “Overgrown Kids,” although it has its intended humor, encapsulates not only the past struggles but also the ongoing complexities of parenthood and surrogate situations.

Overgrown Kids lyrics