Don’t Buy Yo Mama a House by Ladaryl

"Don't Buy Yo Mama a House" challenges societal expectations, urging financial stability before providing a house for parents. Ladaryl's message resonates with those navigating family dynamics.

by Ladaryl

Nov 1, 2023

I’m here to break down my song, “Don’t Buy Yo Mama a House,” and hopefully break a cycle for some. In “Sunday School“, I explore religion, and in “Relax,” politics takes center stage. However, onLive From Fatherhood, “Don’t Buy Your Mama a House” stands out as the most controversial track on the album, debunking perceived societal norms. So, let me give you a personal insight into the lyrics and what I was thinking when I wrote them.

The Weight of Expectations

I remember vividly two people telling me to buy my mama a house. Both of them were women, her friend, and a relative. They had no kids, but they sure had a lack of respect for men, and I couldn’t see that at the time. It was like they both dropped that bomb on me on the same day. They didn’t even know each other, which is crazy. I was in my late teens, maybe early twenties – I was broke, no doubt about that. They wanted me to take care of my mom, and it was this unspoken societal expectation that I was born with a job to do that.

Prioritizing Financial Stability

Any mental health professional and financial expert would concur with the message conveyed in the chorus, which advises, “Don’t Buy Ya Mama a House until you have your financial future figured out.” Life is already tough, and adding the burden of buying a house for your mom when you’re not financially ready can lead to a whole lot of stress and struggles. It’s important to get your own life in order before taking on such a massive responsibility.

Live From Fatherhood album cover art.

Challenging Expectations

I’m all about questioning answers, and in this song, I challenge the idea that children are inherently destined to shoulder the responsibility for their parents’ financial ignorance. This misplaced responsibility can be a form of child abuse because it can lead to undue pressure and unrealistic expectations. I had to bring this to light and let people know it’s not okay.

A Call for Real Sacrifice

In the bridge, I urge mothers to make a “real sacrifice” by allowing their kids to live their own lives and pursue their own dreams. It’s about being supportive without making your children feel guilty about their life choices, about being born. They need to discover their potential and follow their own paths.

Final Thoughts

This song is a reflection of my experiences and observations, and it’s a conversation starter about family dynamics and societal pressures. I want young adults to understand that it’s okay to prioritize their own growth and financial stability before taking on the role of providing a house for their parents.

Thanks for listening, and I hope this song sparks some conversations and changes in perspective. Remember, it’s important to live your life while respecting and loving your parents in a way that doesn’t limit your own potential.

About me

Nanaimo, BC

Hello!

I'm Ladaryl

I am a 40-year-old father of four and the visionary behind the magnum opus, "Live From Fatherhood," which I proudly consider the greatest album ever crafted.
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